Jesus on Parenting Teens: You Are Not Raising the Perfect Child!

Jeremy dimples

I will never forget the moment I realized my son had a sinful nature.  It caught me completely off guard when I discovered he had lied about something.  After all, here was this sweet, innocent little boy who could melt butter with his dimple-filled smile (see above picture).  He was loving, kind, and well-behaved.

I don’t know why, but somewhere in my self-conscience, I thought I was raising a perfect child.  (I laugh at myself about this now!)

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”  (Matthew 5:4)

Usually when we think about this Beatitude, we think about mourning over the death of a loved one.  It’s true…only God’s love and peace can comfort us when we are grieving.  But that applies not only to death, but to sin.  Jesus is telling us that sin is not to be taken lightly; we should truly grieve over our offenses to God, and in turn He will comfort us as only a Savior can do.

I certainly grieved over my son’s sin that day.  We will all face these days as parents, when our kids mess up.  And yes, no matter how good they are, they WILL mess up.  If you haven’t experienced this yet, or even if you have, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  1. Remember that ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).  This includes our kids, as much as we don’t want it to.
  2. Teach your child the beauty of confession.  “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
  3. Ask for your child’s forgiveness when you blow it.
  4. Model forgiveness when your child sins.  Make sure the discipline is appropriate to the offense, and then LET IT GO.  This is not the “forgive and forget” concept – only God can do that.  Let your child know the slate is wiped clean, and it’s a fresh start.
  5. Don’t rat them out to other family members or friends.  Would you want your sins announced to the rest of your inner circle (or beyond)?
  6. Pray.  Pray daily for protection from the enemy and for God to continue to work in your child’s life.
  7. Allow God’s peace to comfort you.  Remember, He is working in your child’s life, and He has even greater influence that we do as parents.





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