Jesus on Parenting Teens: Make It Easy For Your Kids to Honor You

Hunter showing his meek side :)

Hunter showing his meek side :)

“Stay hungry, stay young, stay foolish, stay curious, and above all, stay humble because just when you think you got all the answers, is the moment when some bitter twist of fate in the universe will remind you that you very much don’t.”― Tom Hiddleston

Parenting provides many reminders that we don’t have all the answers, am I right?

So far, this study of the Beatitudes has revealed we need to recognize our dependence on God and mourn over our sins.  It’s difficult to do either of those things without a healthy dose of humility.

“Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.” – Matthew 5:5

The meaning of the word “meek” is gentle, mild, humble.  I don’t know about you, but these are the not the words that come to my mind when I think of my own parenting style.  When my kids sass, whine, or push back, it is not my first instinct to be mild-mannered.  After all, I’m the mom…I’m the authority, and I demand respect, right?

Although God commands children to honor their parents, we can certainly make it easier for them to keep that commandment.   To summarize parenting instructions in the Bible, we are to bring children up in the ways of the Lord, and we are not to exasperate them.  (Ephesians 6:4)

Does that mean we just let the little brats do whatever they want?  Of course not.  That does not instruct them in the ways of the Lord.  We are to model the love of a Heavenly Father.

Think of how gentle God is in dealing with US when we misbehave.  “The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.  He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.” (Psalm 103:8-10)

God doesn’t throw his authority in our face and demand respect, even though He is well within his rights to do so.  We always have the choice to respond to His authority, and when we don’t, He is the perfect picture of meekness.  He forgives and wipes the slate clean.

At this point, I’m sure you’re thinking, “Yeah, well, He’s God.  He can do that.  I can’t!”  But that is where you are wrong.  (Remember, I warned you, you don’t know everything!)  :)

It is true, we cannot be meek on our own.  Gentleness is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).  It can only be attained through the working of the Holy Spirit in our lives.  That makes sense, doesn’t it?  If we could conjure up humility by our own efforts, we would be puffed up with pride, which would defeat the whole purpose!

A favorite pastor of mine, David Holt, explains how we can be filled with the Holy Spirit.  “In order to be filled with the Holy Spirit, we must surrender control of our lives to Jesus and ask Him to fill us with His Holy Spirit.  Based on Ephesians 5:18, we must desire for God to control and empower our life.  If we yield to Him and ask to be filled with the Spirit, we can be confident He will fill us because He wants us to be filled with His Spirit.  Yield and ask!  Do this every day.  Do this every time you are in a situation where you feel the need for His direction and power.  The filling of the Holy Spirit is to be an ongoing, daily, moment-by-moment experience.”

Wow, that really takes the pressure off, doesn’t it?

When we parent our teens in meekness, empowered by the Holy Spirit, Jesus says we will inherit the earth.  We will be given what we did not try to take on our own in this life.  I don’t know exactly what that looks like in regard to our children, but I suspect it will be a truly beautiful thing.




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